So you're in love huh?
Posted On: 01/09/2012
I want to talk about relationships, preferably to those who are single, or in a relationship with a guy or girl now. I see a lot of young people today pursuing relationships, and going through multiple relationships, desperate to find that right one. You pour your heart out, you surrender yourself to that relationship, your so passionate about it, that you seek to please him or her, just to have love.
Question is this, is God truly the author of that relationship, or are you trying to write your own love story? Is God the foundation of that relationship, was or is that relationship founded on a love that comes from God, pure and sinless. Is He the center of that relationship, is that relationship centered around God, pleasing to Him?
I see a lot of young people today chasing after love, pursuing love that they are more concerned about how that guy or girl feels about them then they are how God feels about them. They are more centered on pleasing that guy or girl to keep them in their life, then they are centered on pleasing God, and keeping Him in their life.
Truth is God is not their first love, that guy or girl is, because they take priority over God in their life. They are so focused on that relationship they are willing to do anything to make it work, yet their relationship with God is mediocre at best. Their life centers so much on that relationship, that their joy, their peace, their hope, centers on how that well that relationship continues to be.
They say they love God, but yet they donít pursue Him as they are pursuing that guy or girl. They say they love Him, but their joy, peace, hope is more dependent on that relationship with another then on their relationship with God. They are more afraid to offend or hurt that person, then they are concerned about Godís heart towards them.
Letís take another step, is that person your with love God, is he or she a Christian, is his or her life dedicated and devoted to God? If so then they will seek to please God not just in their relationship with Him personally, but in other relationships they have. Is that guy or girl in your life, encouraging, inspiring you spiritually to have a deeper relationship with God, or leading you in ways you know that are not pleasing to God? Letís be real here nothing is hidden from God, He sees and knows the intent of our hearts.
I know the truth can hurt, but honestly it is good, for when the truth convicts us, it is to preserve us, not to hurt us, but to preserve our lives from sin, and the consequences of sin. God loves us so much that He wants us to know the truth, not so we will feel hurt, or condemned, but hopefully feel convicted to do what is right, and to live right, because He loves us, and longs to preserve us from sin.
I know this message is speaking to someone, or else God wouldnít have led me to share it. I want you to know I have been there. Some years ago I was in a relationship, and it seemed so right, so perfect, I was so sure that she was the girl for me. We were together for over a year, and we begin to discuss marriage and our future together, as a lot do. I was so focused on making that relationship work, on her being the one that honestly I wasnít even truly thinking about how God felt about it all. I just wanted God to feel the way I did about it, but He didnít.
Wasnít long after that the relationship began to crash, and I thought how could this be happening, it was so right, so perfect. Truth is I was trying to write my own love story the way I wanted it to be, I wanted to be the author, that I didnít realize I wanted God to feel the same way I did about it, instead of me feeling the way God felt about it. I wanted God to see it as I did, instead of me seeing it as He did.
I learned a lesson the hard way, but it was good for me, though it hurt, and convicted me, it taught me the truth, and preserved my life. I didnít marry that girl, turned out she had actually been unfaithful during our relationship, and ended up in another relationship, not a good one either. She ended up marrying that guy, having a child with him, and carrying regrets, but later thankfully renewed her relationship with God, and even asked me to forgive her, which I did before she had even asked.
In truth God loved me so much, He was protecting and preserving me, and though it hurt, I thank God for caring enough to reveal that truth to me. That truth preserved me, and taught me what God desires in a relationship, and how not all relationships are of God, or from God, but of those pleasing to themselves, trying to write their own love story, forgetting God is the author of love, for God is love, and, where love begins, originates, and generates from.
Love is more than mushy, or romantic feelings and emotions. Love is a covenant, a spiritual bond, a promise of keeping oneself pure, dedicated, and devoted to another. Genuine love comes from the spirit not from the flesh. To really know what love is, and what it means to love another, you must first have that relationship established with God. In your relationship with God, you will come to have a true understanding of love, as you experience the love of God and grow first in your relationship with God.
You canít truly love someone, till you know what love is, and to know love, you need to know the God who is love, the author of love, and who loves you. As you grow in your relationship with God first, you will find yourself growing in your other relationships, as you God teaches you, and reveals to you the truth about love. Let all other relationships in your life, first center on your relationship with Him. The most important relationship you could ever have is your relationship with God. Let God be youíre your source of joy, peace, hope, let God be the one you pursue more than any other, that He be your first love, and that nothing or no one weaken, or break that relationship you have with Him.
My hope and my prayer is that what God has taught me, will somehow help and bless someone else in their life as well. Thankyou for taking the time to read this, I appreciate it, God Bless you.
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|Apr 29, 2013 1:46 pm|
Thank you for sharing this. :) It hits the nail on the head, and if we only follow God's design for all relationships, I know that we will be so much happier and fulfilled. Thank you for pointing this out in such a caring attitude. :)
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|Jun 4, 2012 8:07 am|
Wow...thank you, bro, for sharing this. :) I was really blessed and encouraged. There is no relationship apart from God that can meet my deepest needs. I have been serving the Lord in my singleness and to Him I give him all the glory and honor. Thank You, Jesus. <3
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|Mar 28, 2012 1:02 am|
After reading this I feel encouraged, and I know I need to always keep this in mind in my own life, in the past I realized God wasn't in it, and that's why it never worked. Now I know I'm on the right path, and I want to stay there in God's plan no matter what may happen. :)
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|Jan 10, 2012 4:52 pm|
This blog is really good. :)